Separating

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

Hi

I'm in the process of ending my same sex relationship and we are trying mediation. Had one session so far. We are still living in same house wit our kids. I need support about how to separate, working out arrangements for kids .

[Kerry50]

Hi

I'm in the process of ending my same sex relationship and we are trying mediation. Had one session so far. We are still living in same house wit our kids. I need support about how to separate, working out arrangements for kids .

[Turkish]

I lived in our home for over 4 months until my Ex could move out. I had then D1 and S3. How old are your kids?

[Kerry50]

I lived in our home for over 4 months until my Ex could move out. I had then D1 and S3. How old are your kids?

Hi they are 11 and 9. We both want to stay in the house. She had very serious breakdown and refuses to take medication and believes she is well. There have been lots of deceit and I don't recognise her any more

[Turkish]

Are you determined to split, or is there hope here? The lessons on the Improving Board  can help. I used them to help reduce conflict while we were living together.

Whatever the case, t would be good to start documenting everything, in a journal (weekly planners work well). Dates, times, facts. It can be legally admissible later if it comes to that. Do you and the kids feel safe?

[Kerry50]

Are you determined to split, or is there hope here? The lessons on the Improving Board  can help. I used them to help reduce conflict while we were living together.

Whatever the case, t would be good to start documenting everything, in a journal (weekly planners work well). Dates, times, facts. It can be legally admissible later if it comes to that. Do you and the kids feel safe?

There is no hope and I have been using the lessons to get me through to survive living under the same roof for now. There is no threat of physical stuff but it is the walking on egg shells and not knowing when her current 'good mood' will turn into one where I'm questioned and criticised for things. I have just read another other board about divorce etc and seen posts re how mediation may or not work. I feel like in trying to negotiate arrangements for kids I am the one with the responsibility to know if they will be safe or not. Whilst I am living here I can ensure routines followed etc so there is some degree of normality but once we are physically separate I think I will be worried.