I wanted to ask folks here how you've looked at and began to deal with your own reactivity. Perhaps this is somewhat still a flea from the r/s, but in a way I don't care about where it comes from (originally my childhood), I want to do better now. Any thoughts?
I agree with OTH, staying tools for communication are amazing.
Also, dbt therapy concepts are fantastic... . like emotional kindergarten. I use them in stressful situations so I don't impulsively react.
Finally, my own mindfulness practice works wonders too.