I'm in T and my T wanted me to run away from this toxic relationship (she basically demanded it or she refused to continue working with me - harsh I know but I think it's worth it).
You know my therapist was tough, too. It took me a while to realize he was trying to get me to fight back. If you don't like something he/she is saying then tell them. Through this safe relationship you will learn how to express yourself and set healthy boundaries, something that is very difficult to do with a borderline. You've either found yourself a very good therapist or a complete a-hole.
She says she wants a break. We need to pause our relationship. I ask if that allows us to see other people. She said no. I agreed that we needed a break. However, I told her I wanted a break up, not a break. I want to find a woman that is going to be good to me. One that fights through hardships, one that is open to communication, one that appreciates conflict resolution skills. I told her I deserve someone better than her.
You're somewhat confusing here, too. Your response seems more a reaction to her antics then anything else. You're also trying to get her to tell you what you want to hear, too. Do you realize that? If she repeats back to you that she can be all those things for you, what will your answer be then?
