UNBPD sister

[littlemermaid]

Hi

I have been aware that my sister has serious problems for a long time. 12 years ago I found out about BPD when she was accusing her husband of domestic violence but there was no evidence. She continually makes up stories to make him and I look bad, constantly corrects me and takes the opposite view of everything I say. She rages and says the nastiest things. Then can be very nice. I recently found out that she has been making up stories to discredit me and make me look really bad.

I had minimal contact for a number of years but have to have contact due to my ageing father. She is always right and I am always wrong. She'd drops in unannounced trying to catch me out if I have been drinking. If I have I get a lecture then she tells everyone I am always pissed. All my family and in laws say she is seriously disturbed but she is very high functioning and has everyone else fooled.

[Elfie]

Hi, littlemermaid I'm new, too, and I also have a sibling with BPD.

I know how difficult it can be when you want to try to distance yourself for your own sake, but aren't really able to because of the whole family thing. Have you tried talking to any of the rest of your family about any of this?

[forgottenarm]

 

Hi Little Mermaid and welcome 

The situation you've described sounds frustrating.  It must be hard to re-engage with your sister after these years you've had low contact.  How are you managing to divide up the tasks related to your dad?  Do you all live near one another?

[littlemermaid]

Hi Elfie and forgotten arm

I haven't really talked to my family just a bit to my cousins and father but about her aggression. I don't have any other family. I have had constant contact with her but she seemed to get better and then her neighbour told me that she had be trying to make me out to be a monster. I'm not working so take my father to most of his appointments.

She has to control every aspect of his life and he gets very frustrated. She makes a complete drama out of everything and fabricates stories to discredit me. I was working with her neighbours and one of them said that I was completely different to how she portrays me.