I made a long list of all the qualities about them, good and bad.
I had one column for the past, and another for the present.
This was to work out what has remained the same, a core part of them, what is real.
The only things that remained the same (things that changed later):
intense emotions---depression
changed into rage. I had severe depression myself, so why is this a red flag... . seeing I don't rage?
Because you get hints of the rage. Such as being more confident than a "normal" depressed person, or having bitter depression VS other types.
e.g. Depression as
as opposed to depression that needs a hug, love, is OK... . jealousy/bitter remarks about other happy people, jealousy of happy people, critique of happy people, trying to bring happy people down, nasty actions towards happy people.
"Normal" depression---slight envy of happy people, but don't lash out at them, lack of bitterness, admire happy people, want help from happy people.
Neediness VS bitterness... . that is the distinction. It is more "normal" to be needy, rather than bitter/brooding.
artistic
certain interests that have nothing to do with me--the key pointPrideful
Poor self image despite looking like male model. Convinced of fat despite semi-ripped.
Bisexual ---seems to be slightly changeable. Will not admit within certain groups... . mild Cameleon here.
Faithful---did not cheat in relationship, tried best to hold onto old friendships.
very neat, highly impatient
very generous
moody
Things that were there but changed: The Cameleon:
sex Sex is one of the most important things to me! ///I don't really like sex, never have.// I can't stand you --but don't want anyone else either.
Massages---I love giving them, a real turn-on, I like giving women pleasure... . later in relationship-- I hate it, I only do it for you... . it is boring
old interests that he said he lost interest in suddenly came back--maybe because it would have taken time away from me?e.g. if your man was one of those guys that golfs every weekend in the Honeymoon phase he will not golf, or even mention it.
It will suddenly be sprung on you when you are used to spending time together, and are really close. Then he will go every weekend obsessively.
SOCIAL INTERACTION
Homebody---social butterfly----What the heck... . -I hate people
-I have problems making friends
-I don't need others
-I like to be alone
-I am an intovert
-I don't like talking
-I am a serious person
Has a problem with the person they have the monopoly on:
-Goes out frequently with friends
-talks to friends a lot on phone
-text messaging all the time
-I like spending time with friends, I like getting away from you, i like talking to them
-Charisma comes out of butt
-digs up exes, old friends etc on social media, texts them
-likes nearly everyone
True to himself-
Will not change big things like religion, beliefs, or things he is truly passionate about for others
Cameleon:
-Speech---very weird, will copy speech of different males... . e.g. jersey shore type guys... . suddenly everyone is "bro"
-hanging around more mature people he is very intelligent, and shows side he won me over with--articulate, well-spoken.
Unless he is very passionate about something will adopt the likes and interests of other guy.
Ironically even though he 'follows" them he is somewhat the alpha or ends up leading the group.
