Now can I have peace?

[Indigo Sky]

I was with my partner off and on for almost 3 years. She was verbally and physically abusive.

She was with me for money, she admitted this at the end.

What caused the end of our time together was over the last 6-8 months I started cutting out the extra money, she had more than enough to live on with what I did give her.

She was nagging me on end for more money and I said sit down and explain where the money I give you is going. She couldnt.

Then I asked for her bank statements for the last year.

The next day was carefully orchestrated by her to "set me up" for a assault charge. It didnt go as she planned and the police refused to file a report. However she did assault me and the police accepted my assault report.

She wanted to keep all the maritial assets and is very bitter.

Now can I have peace?

Do these types of people just go away?

I am ready for a new day.

[HarmKrakow]

I was with my partner off and on for almost 3 years. She was verbally and physically abusive.

She was with me for money, she admitted this at the end.

What caused the end of our time together was over the last 6-8 months I started cutting out the extra money, she had more than enough to live on with what I did give her.

She was nagging me on end for more money and I said sit down and explain where the money I give you is going. She couldnt.

Then I asked for her bank statements for the last year.

The next day was carefully orchestrated by her to "set me up" for a assault charge. It didnt go as she planned and the police refused to file a report. However she did assault me and the police accepted my assault report.

She wanted to keep all the maritial assets and is very bitter.

Now can I have peace?

Do these types of people just go away?

I am ready for a new day.

They go away, some might come back. With 'experiences' like this, it's likely you won't fall in the same trap again, atleast thats what I hope for you.

Do these people go away? Like, go away? Problem is, they hang around.

[causticdork]

I'm wondering this same thing.  I haven't gone full NC with mine yet though, because I was really hoping to retain some sort of friendship.  Are you still in any sort of contact? 

[Indigo Sky]

We have broken up and come back together numerous times... .   they say the average is 7 before totally ending the relationship... .   we were probably around this number before the last encounter.

No contact and none wanted. She tried to charge me with assualt (so she could soak more money from me) where there was none on my part. However she beat me with metal locks in each hand and tried to smash them into the sides of my head (by the way she knows I have eye problems and a hit to the head could lead to permanent blindness), bit both arms and kicked me in the "family jewels" 5 times... .   her anger and violence levels were increasing so it seems to be a good time to end all contact, oh yes, she has made death threats too.

I am just hoping she lets me live in peace.

[causticdork]

Wow.  I'm sorry things are so bad.  Mine has broken my stuff a few times, but never gotten violent with me.  You said you filed assault charges... .   Did you get a restraining order?  Even if you're not physically scared of her, a restraining order is the difference between her being legally allowed to park across the street from your house all day (if it comes to that) and you being able to have her removed by the police. 

I only ended my relationship very recently, and I have a hard time believing mine will lose interest and just let me go, but according to far more seasoned board members than I, BPDers are very out of sight out of mind.  So based on everything I've read I would say expect a few more outbursts before she gives up and moves on, but once she does move on you're probably safe.  Except from slander, but who hasn't had a bitter ex slander them a few times?