A lot of information here didn't work out like I thought it would

[ZhaoZilong5]

My friend's going through the aftermath of a BPD break-up.  The problem is that this site's not really helping her.  It's overloading her and upsets her more if anything.  Any suggestions?  Yeah, I even showed her the workshops and lessons.

[WillSurvive420]

she needs time to process it... .  i remember the day after i realized my exgf had BPD... .  it destroyed me... .  i cried ALL DAY... .  it gets easier day by day... . try to have her enjoy the little things that she liked to do before she met her crazy bf. Try to have her think of things she enjoyed as a kid... .  

[TonyK]

It's overloading her and upsets her more if anything.  Any suggestions? 

Hi.

If this is indeed the case, then why attend this site anyway? Maybe your friend is not ready to start detaching yet. Pressure will not help her towards this end, so there's really no point in trying to accelerate things. 

[hithere]

It's overloading her and upsets her more if anything.

Yes! This site can be very triggering for non-BPD's - I personally did not come on for a few months during my break-up.  Tell her to take a break!

[Clearmind]

ZZ, can I also suggest that your friend posts about her feelings? We do ask that each member be responsible for their own membership. Does that sound OK to you?