ex wife coming for a visit

[benny2]

Well things have been turning around. He is starting to be more open and talking about things such as his fear of getting to close to someone and losing them. He also is trying to be more honest with me. Well thats where the issue lays now. He told me his ex is coming to visit next week for 2 days to move some of her things from their old home. He also told me she is going to be staying with him. Ok, I was of course upset over this and he started saying "see thats why I don't like to tell you everything." I remained calm and told him I do not like the idea, but I was glad he was telling me vs. hiding it from me. This is a first for him to admit something like this to me without trying to hide it. He normally would have either ditched me for a couple days, or started a fight with me and go silent. How do I deal with something like this? He is being honest with me, and telling me she is staying in the spare room and to trust him. I do not trust him, but feel like if I make a big issue of this, he will never tell me the truth again. Wow, I have to give him credit on this one, he used my own philosophy on being honest to kick me in the face.

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Has he given you reason to not trust him?

What is the worst fear you have that will happen?

And in the end, how much control do you have over any of what he does?