Thought I would give a little update!

Well, I did not speak to my H's friend (who is a physician) and it was a wise decision - his physician buddy is now living in a camper in our back yard as his wife filed for divorce about a week after I posted this topic - haven't asked for specifics, but H did say he and his buddy decided they needed to "not tie one on" as much any more (his friend also has a "blow-start" on his vehicle as he has had at least one DWI). In the initial aftermath, H was very fearful about our marriage, but I can see now that he is beginning to assume his friend's "divorce-ness." I just try to keep moving forward and be a stable force for kids.
I did speak to nurse for H's own physician and shared my concerns about his anxiousness, depression, not sleeping, non-compliance and alcohol use.  :)r. H checked him out (I haven't seen labs and H won't share them w me) and added a new diabetic med, recommendation to start exercising (again) and referred him to an endocrinologist - H says because his diabetes is "not being controlled." I would guess more because his GP has determined that he is treating someone who is never going to listen to him. Sadly, this GP (we live in a relatively small town) had a 12 yr old daughter die of an unexpected brain aneurysm last summer, so even though their personal lives are not supposed to affect their treatment of patients, GP may not feel at peace treating someone who seems to not give a flying rat's behind about himself... .
Yep, just another day in paradise... .