If and when I can see my ex as a piece of furniture is when I'll know that I have fully accepted that he no longer has a place in my circle at all. For now I still see him as a person.
I should correct myself in that I do see my ex as a person, I am just not sure who he is anymore, he looks so vacant. And unlike your ex, mine hasn't really shown any improvement in his treatment of me, it has been pretty nasty with only a little peppering of nice that just doesn't seem sincere. And after learning so much about BPD/NPD I just have an understanding that he is mentally ill so there is really no hate on my part at all. I would actually like to see him happy. He looks so dang unhappy.
SA & Trick, I do feel like I am returning to "normal" if there is such a thing.
But thanks, I hope I am on the right track and I hope things keep getting better for me and all of us on L3!