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August 12, 2013, 12:12:14 PM »
Hi all,
Well, It's been since Feb since there has been any attempt at contacting me. Out of the blue, I received a text from her two weeks ago asking me if I have found a certain picture of her daughter. That she was sorry to bother me. To send it to her moms address. (she was living with her mom since Dec). Thanking me for sending her stuff to her. (I sent her stuff way back in Feb; and it's Aug). Another mention of being sorry to bother me. Anyways, I got a notice from Gmail last week that she had updated her profile. I forgot we were friends on Gmail. Apparently she hasn't taken me off her friends list either. She added a current picture to her profile. Odd thing is, I created her Gmail account in 2008 and she has never had a pic attached to her profile. I clicked on properties and it has that the picture was taken on, of all days, my birthday which was in July. Another thing, she has had short hair for the last 2yrs. I mentioned from time to time to let her hair grow as I like it long. The current picture of her has her with long hair.
I know BPDs can be clever or shrewd, whichever, but am I reading too much? Does she know me so well that she knows I would try and find a common link among all those things?
Her text from a few weeks ago didn't bother me so much but the picture just opened the flood gates to all those memories of us for the last 11yrs.
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So sorry to hear about your pain trough all the memories coming up.
I can relate with it, and right now I would say, it can happened all the time. Its just normal.
A little story from myself: Its more than one year that we are separeted and later divorced. I am currently clearing my rooms, really revising which things I will keep and which not. I had so much memories! I was sitting with tears more than once in the midst of all the stuff. Just things, cards from vacations - so painful.
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