Well, that's quite a lot, and 35 years is a long time. Take what she tells you about things her T said to her in a session with a large grain of salt. She may be exagerating, misunderstanding, or outright fabricating some of the things she tells you her T said.
Just keep working with your T, and let her work with hers. I would let these kinds of comments about what her T supposedly says about you go in one ear and out the other. She's the one who impusively moved 1000 miles away to try to live with a married man.
I can certainly endorse this. I am fully aware this happens in our RS, but still fall for it. I can't change it and have to accept it as "just is'. It is hard on the other hand to be constantly suspicious as that is no way to live a RS. You kind of have to take a "thats an interesting thing you are saying approach' choosing neither to believe nor disbelieve, just don't stake any important decisions on it being the truth. Usually its just a close relative of the truth.
There is little in the way of lines drawn between truth, twisted truth and outright fibs. They will often use a blend of whatever best describes their feelings.
Misquoting doctors and Ts is very common, often using cut and pastes from different professionals to come up with their own custom fit answer, and in the process pitting others against each other. It is one of the ways we can get drawn into triangulation situations by being told half truths about what somebody else has supposedly said or done
