Wow! Just... .wow! How heartbreaking for the two of you.
Yep... .
And he sent an email last night, so that didn't take long.
A long attempt to upset me, but it was all vague and generic along the lines of: you know what? You're not even attractive! You never were! I didn't even find you attractive at college!
The best specific that he could come up with was, and this is verbatim, "Actually, you smell."
What was that about BPDs being a 4-year-old child emotionally... .?
Facebook - I actually went back and back, when it got really surreal in May when he started gaslighting me, and it fits with the idea that his dysthymia only switched across to cyclothymia this year, because there's no sign of him having done this before.
What he's done since January, is he gets a new FB-friend, typically a friend-of-a-friend, female, his age or younger. He then does what I called "singles her out" - he 'likes' 100% of her comments, he tags her in statuses, he posts video clips for her, he posts pics for her, he mentions her constantly, he mentioned the two of them together a lot (haha, great joke Jim - one for me and Jane, right, Jane!)... .this is while in a relationship with me which is completely never mentioned on FB. No pics of us, no tagging of me, most of my comments ignored, no relationship status whatsoever listed.
In the early months, he liked some of my comments, replied to some of them, used my name occasionally - just like he did every one. No problem, I don't wave my private life around on my FB either.
but then in January, he started "singling out" this woman. And on Feb 1st severed contact with me. There was some kind of trip he made to her city in late April and she deleted her FB account with no explanation and never came back, so I do wonder what happened there.
then we got back together, having emailed through Feb/ March/April. May, we met up again. Then late May a new FB-friend in another country and he "singled her out" to an even greater extent, whilst reassuring me she was just 'dumb' and "people think my FB stuff is funny so I'm always gonna have a kind of following, I guess".
And in June, off he went to her country for a weekend with her.
Spent July and August convincing me black was white and night was day, denying he'd said whatever he'd said previously, I'd misunderstood, I'd got it wrong, gaslight, gaslight, gaslight... .all the time telling me
And the night I sent my last-ever email to him telling him to get some help because he's sick and destructive, he changes his status to "in a relationship" - hmm, aimed at me perchance, dear ex-bf?
He really is dangerous. And FB totally enabled him.
