Its their way or its your fault

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

Well I am running into the issue I figured would happen. A couple weeks ago uBPDw gets a couple of job interviews in remote locations away from where we currently live. Asks me to look into if I can work remotely or quit. These are indeed good oportunities for her but they would be at my expense. I have always tried to put it back on her to make the decision as to what to do or what the consiquences might be for looking for jobs so far away.  My question is "If offered the position what do we do about my job, the house, and moving?" She has turned down several jobs for this very reason and has always been pissed at me for it.

Now its back again as predicted and it was time to tell her that I can not work remotely. I said I wish we could work something out or that they would be so far away. She is angry that I am making it so she can't ever take these jobs... .Nevermind the fact that it was her job now that she took that moved us back to our home state again just a little over a year ago. But that doesn't matter becasue she hates that job. Also nevermind that she is excelling at it.  I know its always a loose/loose. So I will just put up wioth and deal with the aftermath yet again.

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Well I am running into the issue I figured would happen. A couple weeks ago uBPDw gets a couple of job interviews in remote locations away from where we currently live. Asks me to look into if I can work remotely or quit. These are indeed good oportunities for her but they would be at my expense. I have always tried to put it back on her to make the decision as to what to do or what the consiquences might be for looking for jobs so far away.  My question is "If offered the position what do we do about my job, the house, and moving?" She has turned down several jobs for this very reason and has always been pissed at me for it.

Now its back again as predicted and it was time to tell her that I can not work remotely. I said I wish we could work something out or that they would be so far away. She is angry that I am making it so she can't ever take these jobs... .Nevermind the fact that it was her job now that she took that moved us back to our home state again just a little over a year ago. But that doesn't matter becasue she hates that job. Also nevermind that she is excelling at it.  I know its always a loose/loose. So I will just put up wioth and deal with the aftermath yet again.

[wishfulthinking]

Always going to be something, might as well be this... .