22 year old in need of treatment for BPD

[Distressed Dad]

My first time on the site, so please bear with me. My 22 year old daughter has made several suicide attempts. She was hospitalized briefly at the Carrier Clinic in Belle Mead NJ. She is now in an IOP right now, but seems unstable and in danger. I think she may need to be hospitalized and then participate in some residential treatment program which deals with BPD. Can anyone make a recommendation within a few hours of the NYC metropolitan area for residential treatment? Also, how is this type of treatment typically handled by insurance? I have pretty good insurance, but I know this type of treatment can be extremely expensive. For example, in a place like Austin Riggs, is this type of treatment typically covered by insurance? If not, can someone give me an  idea as to what the costs are in round numbers? Thanks. I need all the help I can get and so does my daughter.

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Phoenix.Rising]

Hello Distressed Dad,

I'm sorry you found us under such troubling circumstances, but I am glad you found us!  I don't have enough information to specifically address all of your questions, but I can hopefully point you in the right direction. 

To start, please take a look at this board:  Archive: Hospitalization, RTCs, and IOPs, https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?board=4.0

There is a lot of information here:

What can a parent do?

And in particular, see Lesson 5: Therapy Methods and inpatient/outpatient venues

https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=114267.msg1125531#msg1125531

You can search local resources here:

https://goo.gl/Fg5HBy

More info:

TOOLS: Dealing with threats of Suicide and Suicide Attempts

Helpful book:

Parenting a Child Who Has Intense Emotions: Dialectical Behavioral Therapy Skills to Help Your Child Regulate Emotional Outbursts and Aggressive Behaviors - Pat Harvey, ACSW, LCSW-C, and Jeanine Penzo, LICSW

I know I gave you a lot of information, but it sounds like you need something ASAP.  I suggest you start sharing your story on this board, Parenting a son or daughter suffering from BPD board, as other parents will be able to give you advice.  Best to you.

Phoenix.Rising

[heartandwhole]

Distressed Dad,

I'd like to join Phoenix.Rising in welcoming you to the site.  I'm very sorry to hear about your daughter, that is painful to go through.  You are not alone, many of our members have been in similar situations.

You have been given excellent information to find immediate answers.  Please post more when you can, it really helps.

We are here to support you. 

heartandwhole

[Rapt Reader]

Hi, Distressed Dad... .

Have you ever heard of the Bradford Regional Medical Center, in Bradford, PA? I know it's more than just a few hours from the New York City area, but my son just completed their 21-day Intensive Dual Diagnosis Program in April of 2013. It saved his life; he was suicidal, addicted to drugs, diagnosed with ADD, Anxiety, and then that Center gave him his BPD diagnosis. The therapy is very extensive, with DBT every day. If your daughter meets their criteria, Insurance should cover it. You can look them up on the internet--on their site go to their Mental Health page, then you should see their Dual Diagnosis Center tab or section.

If you want to know more about what his time there was like, there is a link you can click on at the bottom of my post: My Son's Dual Dx Pgm & NFT Story that explains it in a little more detail.

My best to your daughter and your family