Parting is such sweet sorrow...

[Depression = 72% of members]

Well, my friends

I've taken the decision to say farewell to this forum.

As much as I am a part of a community that really understands what we Non's are going through, my daily visits are keeping me focussed on my ex, and the pain I experience from others' posts as well, really does make me feel that if I am to truly heal, then I must stop the constant reminders.

You have all helped me, one way or another, to try and come to terms with my ex and Mr X, and been very patient as I just seemed to be going on and on about them ad nauseum... .

I am the first to admit that I have become obsessed with what they are doing together, when all the energy I've been expending on something I have no control over, should really be spent on me and my recovery.

That process is about to start.

I call you friends because I've opened my heart to you all without fear of being laughed at or ridiculed. I only open my heart to people I can trust and feel comfortable with.

To those that have contributed in my search for answers on several occasions, I would like to give a special mention. You know who you are and I thank you deeply. I'm reluctant to single anyone out in particular, as that would seem like I'm giving favouritism to one person when you've all been there to help.

He is in great pain, yet will always give comfort to those that have only scratched the surface of what he has been through. Thank you, and may your suit become strong and missile-proof soon.

Farewell, take care and be strong    

[houseofswans]

Well, my friends

I've taken the decision to say farewell to this forum.

As much as I am a part of a community that really understands what we Non's are going through, my daily visits are keeping me focussed on my ex, and the pain I experience from others' posts as well, really does make me feel that if I am to truly heal, then I must stop the constant reminders.

You have all helped me, one way or another, to try and come to terms with my ex and Mr X, and been very patient as I just seemed to be going on and on about them ad nauseum... .

I am the first to admit that I have become obsessed with what they are doing together, when all the energy I've been expending on something I have no control over, should really be spent on me and my recovery.

That process is about to start.

I call you friends because I've opened my heart to you all without fear of being laughed at or ridiculed. I only open my heart to people I can trust and feel comfortable with.

To those that have contributed in my search for answers on several occasions, I would like to give a special mention. You know who you are and I thank you deeply. I'm reluctant to single anyone out in particular, as that would seem like I'm giving favouritism to one person when you've all been there to help.

He is in great pain, yet will always give comfort to those that have only scratched the surface of what he has been through. Thank you, and may your suit become strong and missile-proof soon.

Farewell, take care and be strong    

[Ironmanrises]

House... .

We are here for you my friend.

You have helped me in return too. 


Hang in there and heal my friend.

[strikeforce]

I wish you all the best 

[ShadowDancer]

I wish you the best too. I DO believe you are making a very good decision. My parting "insider" tip as I look over my shoulder is... ."No communication is the safest investment... .bank on it".      

[Vibration]

You are making the right decision and I wish you all the best.

It is true that we cannot continue to focus on our exes and grow at the same time.

Healing will only come once we are ready in our own time to let go and fly again for ourselves.

[santa]

I think that's a good step. I've been reading this forum for a couple of weeks now without posting and while it's been helpful, I do think it makes me think of my ex more often than I should.

[happylogist]

Good luck!

I hope you will write one day a post about your detaching and growing experience, just to inspire others

[Jbt857]

House - don't forget the L6 section - there's a lot of good stuff there if you feel this part of the board is keeping you stuck.

And some days if you're feeling vulnerable, don't think twice about coming back. (I come and go, depending on my mood.)

Be strong, go forward, but don't forget that we are here if you need us.