I found out from a friend last night that my xBPDgf falsely told people including myself that she slept with him the same week after she initially slept with me... . Why would she tell a lie like that? what the heck? Is there some twisted logic that I am missing? Im tempted to contact and ask her about it, but that would just open another can of worms... . Have any of you experienced such lies which make no sense?
They make total sense to a borderline. Remember in a borderline's mind when they attach to someone they are creating one person with no boundary, not two autonomous people in a partnership. That's subconscious mind you, and she's just doing what feels right, so what she's doing consciously is trying to increase the value of her sexuality (hey, if the other dude wanted her too, she must be a valuable slice of femininity), plus she knows full well that will get under your skin because you may or may not have exclusive rights to the goods. She does that to increase the power of her side of the 'person' the two of you have created, to keep you on edge, and her in control. Wanna blow the whole thing up? Blatantly ogle some young hottie in front of her, bound to send her into a tizzy and dysfunctional as hell, but hey, that's where we found ourselves on the way to enlightenment. Take care of you!
