oh that unravelling yes I had that too,
i was already sensitive to all the complements I had Then, a week after we've met, someone said to my ex who was complaining about his suffering.
"well, seems that you have all the luck, why don't you do something about it" , the woman said to him. That was itself a red flag but I could not believe such harshness and said "no he is just telling you that he has been through a lot".
And then he moaned yes and said that he did go through a lot.
And yes, he did go through a history of abuse. red-flagband I was the only one who understood him he said... .
then I woke up one day with his arms around my neck. yet another red flag but I still stayed because I was the only one to understand his sorrow. Never seemed to bother myself with my sorrow, though.