Hello, JillS, and I'd like to join
clairedair in welcoming you to this site. She's right; there are many of us with children with BPD who understand what you are going through... .I'm here because of my own adult son (36) who was just diagnosed with BPD in March/April of 2013. I'm so
very happy to hear that your daughter now understands that she has a problem, and wants to get help! That is really half the battle to good mental health; my own son finally got the help he needed and is on his way to recovery at last (his story is at the blue link at the bottom of this post, in my signature line).
Do you know if there is a Dual Diagnosis Program anywhere near you that she could go to for help? My son's life turned around when he attended an intensive, Inpatient 21-day Dual Dx Center (where he got the BPD diagnosis). He loved it there, and learned so much that there was no stopping him in trying to recover and live a better life. He is now almost 9 months clean and sober (from a heroin addiction!), and still attending treatment willingly, learning something new every day. Your insurance company might be able to help you find one, or maybe the
National Alliance on Mental Illness could help you to find a D Dx Program, or therapist in your area who knows about BPD. Since your daughter has the dual diagnoses of substance abuse (alcohol, and maybe something else?) and mental health issues, a Program like that could be a life saver for her, like it was for my son.
Please keep posting here, and asking your questions... .and let us know if the link above has helped you. My own son's Outpatient Therapist (for the drug abuse) is the one who found the Dual Diagnosis Program for him (it is part of the Bradford Regional Medical Center, in Bradford, PA); maybe you can find a local mental health facility/professional/MD/therapist/AA that can guide you. Or if you are in the North East, I would highly recommend you contact the Bradford Regional Medical Center's Dual Diagnosis Program (you can google it, I'm sure). Please let us know if you have any more questions; we are here to help you