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It been 4 months n/c from my part and rarely i spend a day without this urge to go up the her and hug her( never i think ), kiss her,tell her i love and long for her... .but i hold on. I keep dreaming of her, hopping she comes back having seen the whole picture.it hurts everyday still but i have faith in myself more and more .
just had write this up to the universe
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it's so hard
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It Is, but it Will pass won't it ?
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Hi Marinro,
My 32 days is nothing compared to your 4 months, but even after a month there are times of insight from my inner wisdom that sees things as they really are.
Just brief glimpses that tell me everything is allright, but glimpses nontheless.
I occasionally still have the same feelings that you do, I often dream about her - and in the dreams we live and enjoy a healthy and normal relationship.
The truth, of course, is that such a relationship would
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happen in reality.
To answer your question directly:
yes, it will get better
. It might not seem like it, but it will. Have confidence in yourself, and keep telling yourself that you will, one day, meet someone who is capable of loving you, and give you compassion and affection - a two-way street of feelings for each other.
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Hi marinro
a big hug to you.
Yes, it will get better. it needs time, patience and sometimes also things like a project, some members start doing walks or some exercise.
This could be helpful too:
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