When I first started dating my (and everyone else's
) pwBPD I was not that into her and she was flakey so I told her I was going to date around since she didn't want to move forward. BTW, I was just coming out of a 14 year marriage. I met a girl on Match.com (she was cute and emailed me) and we talked for a week before we went out. She would call me after drinking and ask if she could come over. This was the first week I ever talked to this woman. Anyway we went out and had a great time. We decided to get some food (we had been drinking heavily) and went back to my place. I started eating while she used the restroom. She called for me and I went into the bedroom. She was spread eagle naked on my bed. Well... .I started kissing her and she said "I love you!" I jumped out of the bed and went in the other room. I told her to get dressed and she left. She called the next day and acted like nothing had ever happened.
Fast forward 3 years and today I went on Match.com to check it out (I'm not even close to being ready to date) and guess who I saw? I IM'ed her just to say "Hi" and she responded. She remembered everything about that night including me talking about my future pwBPD. We chatted for a few minutes and all of the sudden said that "I had caused her to do what she did" and she said "Leave me alone. Good Bye" and she logged off! I'm thinkin she was BPD. So yes, I saw the red flags with her the first night I met her, but my ex who was a WAIF and someone I had known for 3 years prior to dating fooled me for a year and a half before she really trapped me in the FOG!
I enjoy reading the Match.com profiles trying to figure out which ones have BPD
I think there are a lot. I would be terrified to date someone from that site again.
