Whenever you meet someone new and they tell you "I'm bad" or "I'm a f$&@ed up bhit" believe them and walk away.
Hi Kallor74
Interesting idea. Maybe we can make a collection of that particular kind of
statement. I was given one, which led into the whole BPD SO drama and recycling, lasting for years, which was:
"I'm dangerous".
Yes, I should have listened more closely at that point.
OTOH, it wouldn't be a good idea to assume a one-to-one correspondence between BPD and these statements. I had another SO who I now believe has BPD, who didn't give me that specific kind of statement (there were other red flags, but not that upfront negative self-description).
And, isn't it possible that somebody might say that, and
not have BPD, and turn out to be a very good partner? --A situation where maybe you just caught them on an off day, or even an off month, or at a time when they're doing some serious introspection... .
So, if I run into this sort of statement again I think I'll view it as being
likely to indicate serious problems, and watch the situation carefully and investigate further (and not ignore or deny it, like I did the last time) -- but still, I don't think I'd walk directly away without further evidence.
I mean, it's not like they said, "I just killed somebody with an axe."
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