I have not had any contact with NBPD mother for a week.

[Our abuse recovery guide]

She ignored the whole family (three generations of her relatives) and sat alone on Christmas eve and Christmas. She came over the following day with her golden child. It was uncomfortable and stiff but we made it through it. By the time it was over I felt like I had to have a very long break from her.  I have not called her and she has not called me since that day.  I feel such a sense of relief not having to hear her rants and negativity but I have already had a call from the golden child suggesting I should avoid the drama of no contact and just call her once in a while.  This is a high functioning engulfing BPD.  Enough is never enough.  I hope I don't cave in.

[nevermore]

She ignored the whole family (three generations of her relatives) and sat alone on Christmas eve and Christmas. She came over the following day with her golden child. It was uncomfortable and stiff but we made it through it. By the time it was over I felt like I had to have a very long break from her.  I have not called her and she has not called me since that day.  I feel such a sense of relief not having to hear her rants and negativity but I have already had a call from the golden child suggesting I should avoid the drama of no contact and just call her once in a while.  This is a high functioning engulfing BPD.  Enough is never enough.  I hope I don't cave in.

[losthero]

Wishing you the best Nevermore.  Enjoy the peace and quiet while it lasts. 

[bright_future_mama]

Easy for the golden child to say! 

My sister (golden child) is the same way.  She is much more tolerant of my mother than I am. She doesn't deny any of her issues/problems but the way she was treated was so different than me and my other sister.  The golden child sister does not question my mother or confront her. She handles her with kid gloves.  I used to think she had it best, but I'm almost glad my mother was harder on me because it made me angry enough to get away and see her for what she is.  Ironically, my sister has internalized all the rage she feels and it has now come out full force... . but not towards my mother--towards her husband (who is so very patient with all of this)... .   :'(  They are currently having to go to marriage counseling because he has become her punching bag.  I'm almost scared she has developed some BPD traits.  Nothing like my Mom, but I guess we all pick up things as we grow up and learn by what we see... . I am constantly worried about which one of us will end with BPD.

[lucyhoneychurch]

Don't cave in. You deserve only the best... . I can't message you as my account is new I think that's why... . but we go way back nevermore... . hugs from sunny but snowy Va... . never thought I'd be on this board again... .

Never ever ever ever give up.

Hope is the thing with feathers.

You know both of these statements are so vital to our existence(s).   

[Sitara]

Stay strong!  You deserve to be around people who respect you (and deserve a break from people who won't)!