Enter... psychotic brother.

[Depression = 72% of members]

In my last post, I mentioned the resurfacing of my younger brother once my older brother passed away.  His behavior has been bizarre, to say the least... . he moved into the retirement facility where our (88 year old uBPD/narcissist) mother resides, to "take care of his mother".  All things considered, it has seemed the sensible thing to do, to sit back and allow nature to take its course.  He has no job or family, really, and so has the time to devote to serving her narcissistic needs... . which relieves us of a great deal of angst resulting from her "staged" mishaps.  I do put in the "obligatory" phone call from time to time, just to check on her well being.

This morning, he telephoned my husband, claiming to have become lost trying to find our house, so my husband drove half a mile to the grocery store to "visit" with him.  Among the ramblings were: 

"Everything Mom says is happening to her in that facility is true... . I caught one in the act of bullying her a month ago". 

"I have police connections, and if it keeps up, I'll have them come to the facility and put the woman in handcuffs... . I'm already working on headlines for a senior center bullying feature." 

"I'm going to move her one floor up, install an aquarium just inside the door with the blowfish she loves so much... . for her birthday... . and move into the room above the one I'm living in now... . and install a spiral staircase, 'cause I need more room for the surveillance work I'm doing on the bar across the alley." 

"I have to stay under the radar, due to the nature of my 'work'"... . ?

"I, and a buddy of mine, are going to buy the strip mall across the alley, and create a quiet room next to the bar, and also a sauna, which I need for my diabetic neuropathy."

"I just finished working a hospice situation nearby, and I held the man's hand as he passed away... . felt his spirit move through me."

Sometime during the conversation, he reached into his shirt pocket and pulled out a bullet, set it on the dash, excused himself to make a quick phone call, saying, "I see your guy watching me, and you can tell him I know he can see the bullet on my dash... . but he won't see the next one." 

That should be enough to provide the gist of his "frame of mind".  Needless to say, our day is off to a very freakish start. 

My knee jerk reaction to all of this is to notify (I have NO idea where to start, or who to notify) someone that he needs to be watched.  Upon further consideration, left alone, management at the facility should certainly step in and involve the appropriate authorities. 

She moved him in there knowing he "creeps the rest of the family out".  She gave him a key to her apartment, despite previously changing the locks because she "was afraid of him". 

After this morning's exposure to him, I've become convinces he's crossed over into some kind of psychotic fantasy land. 

Anybody have a clue, or shared experience?  I'm WIDE OPEN to feedback.

[hildagarde]

In my last post, I mentioned the resurfacing of my younger brother once my older brother passed away.  His behavior has been bizarre, to say the least... . he moved into the retirement facility where our (88 year old uBPD/narcissist) mother resides, to "take care of his mother".  All things considered, it has seemed the sensible thing to do, to sit back and allow nature to take its course.  He has no job or family, really, and so has the time to devote to serving her narcissistic needs... . which relieves us of a great deal of angst resulting from her "staged" mishaps.  I do put in the "obligatory" phone call from time to time, just to check on her well being.

This morning, he telephoned my husband, claiming to have become lost trying to find our house, so my husband drove half a mile to the grocery store to "visit" with him.  Among the ramblings were: 

"Everything Mom says is happening to her in that facility is true... . I caught one in the act of bullying her a month ago". 

"I have police connections, and if it keeps up, I'll have them come to the facility and put the woman in handcuffs... . I'm already working on headlines for a senior center bullying feature." 

"I'm going to move her one floor up, install an aquarium just inside the door with the blowfish she loves so much... . for her birthday... . and move into the room above the one I'm living in now... . and install a spiral staircase, 'cause I need more room for the surveillance work I'm doing on the bar across the alley." 

"I have to stay under the radar, due to the nature of my 'work'"... . ?

"I, and a buddy of mine, are going to buy the strip mall across the alley, and create a quiet room next to the bar, and also a sauna, which I need for my diabetic neuropathy."

"I just finished working a hospice situation nearby, and I held the man's hand as he passed away... . felt his spirit move through me."

Sometime during the conversation, he reached into his shirt pocket and pulled out a bullet, set it on the dash, excused himself to make a quick phone call, saying, "I see your guy watching me, and you can tell him I know he can see the bullet on my dash... . but he won't see the next one." 

That should be enough to provide the gist of his "frame of mind".  Needless to say, our day is off to a very freakish start. 

My knee jerk reaction to all of this is to notify (I have NO idea where to start, or who to notify) someone that he needs to be watched.  Upon further consideration, left alone, management at the facility should certainly step in and involve the appropriate authorities. 

She moved him in there knowing he "creeps the rest of the family out".  She gave him a key to her apartment, despite previously changing the locks because she "was afraid of him". 

After this morning's exposure to him, I've become convinces he's crossed over into some kind of psychotic fantasy land. 

Anybody have a clue, or shared experience?  I'm WIDE OPEN to feedback.

[PleaseValidate]

It sounds like it could be many things including drug use or unstable blood sugar, but most likely paranoid mania or psychosis.

Unfortunately, i do not expect the people at such facilities to always do their jobs. I would directly advise the management of the facilities of the situation and mental status of brother.

If still concerned, make a call to elder protective services. They will remove him from the situation (or monitor him in it) if needed, but they will not do anything for your bro's mental health. 

If there is a psychologist/mental health worker on-call at the facility, consult w that person re your brother's mental condition. If you have mobile mental health crisis teams in the state where you live, get them to come in to evaluate him if he is not willing to go himself.

If he has treators or has been inpt psych before, call his treators directly and they will decide if he needs to be admitted to a psych facility. Some states also have mandated outpatient treatment but i know very little about it.

Good luck and please keep us posted. Very sorry this is happening to you.