Just had a text from my ex to say her mum has just died and might I call her. Her mother has been ill for a long time and I knew this would come. We've been on pretty much no contact for 10 months.
Oh no, brokenbutalive! I'm so sorry. What a difficult, painful situation.
I feel absolutely 100 percent morally bound to call her and talk to her
Why?
I went back and read your previous posts. She is a toxic person who caused you incredible torment. She abused you to the point that you moved away. What obligation do you feel towards her?
Try to step back a little and take care of yourself first. Acknowledge and work with your own feelings on this. On whether or not contacting her is healthy for
you. No one here will try to make that decision for you, or disrespect whatever decision you make. Only
you can decide if it's "right" for you to call her.
Oh god I feel sick
Very understandable! This is an incredibly stressful situation. I just want to make sure that you take care of yourself first. We're all here for you.