I sometimes just shake my head when I think of the r/s with my ex gf. At the same time, I think of what my T asked me recently: "would you change who you are today? Would you change the road it took to get you here?" My response was "no, I wouldn't change who I am today and yes, I'd change the road I took to here". Her response was that then I'd most likely be a different person if I traveled a different road. So, this was a lesson that has been a key part to my final detachment. I can't change what happened or why it happened. I am in control of me and I feel an extreme sense of gratitude and peace at where I am today. I'm a work in progress and look forward to further growth and evolution.
Madison, thank you for sharing this. It's very powerful to arrive at acceptance -- indeed, a "radical acceptance" of sorts. I'm grateful to hear this, as this is my goal.
The greatest gifts from all of this has been a new found sense of awareness, self love and self acceptance. And, peace! I found peace! It may not be a coincidence that I recently met someone who I think is really special. She's emotionally and physically healthy, and we seemed to be matched well together. She challenges me and I'm finding that I'm not holding back. After the 3+ years of abuse with my ex gf, I doubted that I could ever trust myself again. Well, that was because I really never did in the first place. Life has changed and I can trust myself now. It feels really good!
"Self-awareness... . self-love... . and self-acceptance." And peace. That's a fantastic outcome.
Detachment leads to freedom. Thank you for sharing.
