Material Damages

[AwakenedOne]

Just reflecting on some of the material damages my uBPDstbxw caused with her uncontrollable rages during our relationship.

4 car key fabs damaged and destroyed - $300

Windows cracked - $200

TV damaged - $400

TV cabinent damaged - $150

Beds damaged - $750

Mirrors damaged - $150

Many cds damaged - $300

Food out of the refrigerator smashed into pieces or tossed against the wall - $300

Throwing various liquids damaged the carpet - $300

Cracked doors - $300

Kicked in walls - $500

Destroyed door hinges - $50

Damage to door knobs - $125

Food thrown out the car window - $150

Gift desserts smashed - $20

Sentimental rings thrown out on the concrete and scatched - Priceless loss

Replacement rings thrown in the garbage in a rage - Priceless loss

Tires worn out from lunatic driving - $500

Car rear view mirror cracked - $25

Damages to the body of the car - $750

Damages to car paint - $1000

Gear shift misaligned and damaged by stop/start high speed hill - $800

Magazines ripped to pieces - $100

Coupons I needed destroyed out of spite - $200

Clothes ripped - $200

Computer cracked bad, had to replace - $600

Many drinks spilled in the cup holder of the car due to lunatic driving - $25

Replacement drink cost to go back to 7-11 to get drinks again - $25

Unknown amount of money thrown out the window - ?

Many clothes hangers broken in half - $50

Many combs broken in half - $20

Much of her makeup wich was thrown and destroyed - $200

Miscellaneous damages $3000 - $5000

[WhatTheFrank]

Escaping the clutches of a toxic partner - priceless

[kiwimitch]

Oh mate, that is one hello of a lot of damages... .  You have $5000 worth of reasons never to go back... .!

My Ex borderline never quite went to that... .  but the day she left my home, she was right on the brink, 

She grabbed a vase and was about to hiff it at the TV... .I had to `physicaly hold her down till the taxi arrived... . 

I know she would of gone beserk... . 

And the crazy part is,, the whole relationship broke down, because of her crazy out of control behavior, then she turned it all around and blamed me... . 

Oh hell... .   

It sounds like you have less reasons to return than I do...

Hang in there... .

Good Luck. 

[Mutt]

I'm sorry AO that's a lot of damage   It sounds like something a child would do when they're having a bad tantrum.

[Lion Fire]

Damn AO!

That is serious damage bro. Holy Cow!

looking at your list, I believe I got out of town at the right time.

smh

[cosmonaut]

I gave my ex a significant amount of money, but it was entirely of my own choice.  In fact, I insisted she take it.  She was very sick at the time and she badly needed (very expensive) treatment among other things.  It was a gift.  I've never asked for any of it back and I wont, but I can understand a little of the sting at having given so much and had it appreciated so little.

I know your ex has been truly cruel to you.  She does sound quite vicious and vindictive.  I'm so sorry you have been through that.  I'm glad that you are beginning to move on and to pick up the pieces.  A better life is ahead for both of us.   

[Sadsue]

Here is the list of damaged caused by my husband:

Numerous meals thrown in the bin or across the floor

3 metal pedal bins kicked and punched out of shape

Hole in wall in kitchen

Door frame on kitchen door damaged

Hole kicked in wall in hallway

My favourite jacket burnt along with several other of my items

My favourite knee length leather boots ripped apart

Several vases smashed

Flowers thrown across room or put in bin

Blinds ripped from bedroom window

Paper lamp destroyed

Tens of glasses smashed

2 dining chairs thrown across room and damaged

Dining chair punched back out

Food thrown against wall

Cat litter box kicked and destroyed

Recycling box kicked and destroyed

Marriage photo frame smashed

Candle holders smashed

His phone thrown and smashed screen

My phone thrown and smashed screen

Computer keyboard smashed in half

Corkscrew broken into pieces

2 clothes airers thrown over and destroyed

Chair in hotel room thrown over and damaged

Many hair clips stamped on and destroyed

2 pairs of sunglasses bent in two

His sunglasses thrown to the ground in the street

Crockery, cutlery pans in the bin instead of washing

Damage to his car - he kicked it

The mirror in my car visor smashed when he punched it

Handle on garage window broke in two

3 house plants thrown around room and damaged

Washing machine door ripped off

Set of 3 wall prints destroyed

Other frames thrown off walls

My bedroom drawers thrown over, drawers removed and stamped on

Numerous sideboard sweeping, pushes everything off onto floor

Ceiling light pulled off x 2

I'm sure there is more, these rages take place in relation to very insignificant matters but he perceives them to be major.  Things have improved as I try to have a boundary that I stay away from him when I see Mr Hyde arriving.   

Stay strong everyone x

[AwakenedOne]

Here is the list of damaged caused by my husband:

Numerous meals thrown in the bin or across the floor

3 metal pedal bins kicked and punched out of shape

Hole in wall in kitchen

Door frame on kitchen door damaged

Hole kicked in wall in hallway

My favourite jacket burnt along with several other of my items

My favourite knee length leather boots ripped apart

Several vases smashed

Flowers thrown across room or put in bin

Blinds ripped from bedroom window

Paper lamp destroyed

Tens of glasses smashed

2 dining chairs thrown across room and damaged

Dining chair punched back out

Food thrown against wall

Cat litter box kicked and destroyed

Recycling box kicked and destroyed

Marriage photo frame smashed

Candle holders smashed

His phone thrown and smashed screen

My phone thrown and smashed screen

Computer keyboard smashed in half

Corkscrew broken into pieces

2 clothes airers thrown over and destroyed

Chair in hotel room thrown over and damaged

Many hair clips stamped on and destroyed

2 pairs of sunglasses bent in two

His sunglasses thrown to the ground in the street

Crockery, cutlery pans in the bin instead of washing

Damage to his car - he kicked it

The mirror in my car visor smashed when he punched it

Handle on garage window broke in two

3 house plants thrown around room and damaged

Washing machine door ripped off

Set of 3 wall prints destroyed

Other frames thrown off walls

My bedroom drawers thrown over, drawers removed and stamped on

Numerous sideboard sweeping, pushes everything off onto floor

Ceiling light pulled off x 2

I'm sure there is more, these rages take place in relation to very insignificant matters but he perceives them to be major.  Things have improved as I try to have a boundary that I stay away from him when I see Mr Hyde arriving.  

Stay strong everyone x

I tried to reason with her that if she would stop breaking stuff we'd have more money to do fun things and go on trips instead of just replacing things.

[Sadsue]

That's what I don't get, one if my husbands many triggers is money, he only thinks of success in terms of money, whereas I see it as having a nice home, a loving partner, a healthy family etc, so why doesn't he see that if he stops breaking things we would have more money.  Only this morning I retrieved 3 plates, cutlery, a saucepan, a tray and 2 baking trays out of the dustbin!  Why?

[AwakenedOne]

That's what I don't get, one if my husbands many triggers is money, he only thinks of success in terms of money, whereas I see it as having a nice home, a loving partner, a healthy family etc, so why doesn't he see that if he stops breaking things we would have more money.  Only this morning I retrieved 3 plates, cutlery, a saucepan, a tray and 2 baking trays out of the dustbin!  Why?

Yeah, my wife said she would stop and then the next day she'd do even worse and be less sorry than the day before.

Is your husband trying to aggravate you or he just wants to lose that stuff for some type of relief? Maybe he doesn't like to do dishes and rather would buy new ones? Maybe the solution is paper plates and plastic utensils?

[Sadsue]

I've no idea why he does the bin thing, if he did it with stuff I had left out I could sort of understand it but it's not, it's his tea dishes.  We have a dishwasher so I am clueless!  He does do stuff to punish me, like sleeping in spare room, silent treatment etc and I've learnt that the more he sees it bothers me the more he does it do I ignore his behaviour.  When I wrote that list yesterday it made me realise how ill he must be because that behaviour is very odd.  If I had stolen his money, cheated on him, refused intimacy, betrayed him in some way I could understand his anger but these incidents are over trivial matters.  I feel so sad for him, he sees all my words and actions as a personal attack when in reality all I do is love and care about him.