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« on: June 12, 2014, 04:28:10 AM »

So,

He keeps calling me almost every other day.

I was in Munich last night so I when I got a call at 00:42 am I just knew it was him. I answered and told him he had to stop calling me. He said : how's Munich?

I said: how do u know I'm here?

He said: what would u do if I knocked on ur door right now?

I said: Id call the police!

Then it occurred to me he saw my cover pic on facebook. He creates fake profiles to watch whatever little info he can get.

Then I said: you really have to STOP calling me!

He said: "I can ring you anytime I want to! Don't you forget that"

That chilled me to the bones!

What is his intentions?

I know he's harmless but it's annoying me!
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« Reply #1 on: June 12, 2014, 05:53:51 AM »

Change your number and lock your fb profile. ... he's scary and pwBPD have no time sense. They do what they like unless you know how to manage them. Probably someone more senior can help you.
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« Reply #2 on: June 12, 2014, 06:37:59 AM »

Change your number and lock your fb profile. ... he's scary and pwBPD have no time sense. They do what they like unless you know how to manage them. Probably someone more senior can help you.

Well, as NN said, you're dealing someone who has no sense of boundaries with a NEED for attachment. PwBPD perceive life as an unconnected series of fleeting events instead of a continuous history, while their interpersonal relationships are shallow and organized on a need-gratification base.

He will continue to do this until finding a new attachemnt, your replacement, with diminishing frequency as the return on investment is diminisihing as well.

There are basicly two ways to deal with this. Removing the reward from the equation or taking legal action. Persons who don't understand the concept of boundaries could be only motivated by the fear of persecution.
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« Reply #3 on: June 12, 2014, 07:36:56 AM »



I know he's harmless but it's annoying me!

This SCARED me for YOU when I read it. Don't ever ASSUME that he is harmless. He hasn't done anything YET... . there is always a FIRST time! Remember he is UNSTABLE!

Please be careful !
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« Reply #4 on: June 12, 2014, 08:45:05 AM »

He keeps calling me almost every other day.

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I got a call at 00:42 am I just knew it was him. I answered ... .

You want him to stop calling, but you answer the phone when you know it's him?  That might be why he thinks he can call you whenever he wants, because he knows you'll pick up eventually.  Have you considered blocking him?
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« Reply #5 on: June 12, 2014, 08:59:12 AM »

Yes Trent.

I have! That's why he calls as "no id caller". I was outside the UK so the call came as 333.

Somehow I knew it was him. I didn't talk to him, just picked up the phone and screamed at him to stop calling.

He did have a replacement but I figured it didn't work. And even when he was with my replacement he kept attempting to get in touch with me saying there was no one like me! :-S
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« Reply #6 on: June 12, 2014, 09:18:34 AM »

I didn't talk to him, just picked up the phone and screamed at him to stop calling.

Sorry, I must have been confused, because in your original post it sounded like you had a conversation with him.  Either way, good job blocking his #!  But know that any attention, even negative attention, is positive reinforcement for him, and only serves to encourage him further.  If you truly want him to leave you alone, you must be consistent in not acquiescing to his provocations.

What I found helpful is that I won't answer the phone if I don't recognize the number/area code, and I definitely don't answer if the caller id is hidden.  If it's really that important, the other party will leave a voice mail and I can deal with it appropriately.

Good luck!
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« Reply #7 on: June 12, 2014, 09:38:19 AM »

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I didn't talk to him, just picked up the phone and screamed at him to stop calling.

Sorry, but this is still playing his game.  His game is to know he still "has" you by getting you to react -doesn't matter if it is a reaction of love or hatred, peace or violence.
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