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NC for almost 2 months - feels great
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I have gone through all stages in this relationship. A month ago she announced on her Facebook that she was on a trip and in a relationship with the "most amazing man". And at that time, I was really hurt considering we were sleeping together 3 weeks before. However, I told my friend that I didn't want anymore Facebook updates.
So I still have her phone number blocked and Facebook blocked. And everything is going very well. I feel better in my professional and personal life. I am happy and I feel like I am returning to my old self again. This forum has really helped me. I have no intention of breaking NC, and I am only looking forward.
I am comforted by the fact that I no longer view her as this great love. I realize that is wasn't real. And that is ok. I don't hate her, and I realize that she is what she is. She will never change, and she will continue to do what she does. I feel fortunate that I have got out of the relationship relatively unscathed. I really think that t listening to the advice on here and following through was the key.
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Re: NC for almost 2 months - feels great
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So good to hear this. I'm very happy for you.
It is very encouraging to hear your success story and I like the fact you accept her and the r/s you had for what the are, without idealizing nor devalueing it or demonizing her. I'm following the same approach and I feel it leaves me with a clean heart and conscious.
It reminds me of this Buddhist quote "Hanging on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die"
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I love your quote trappedinlove
I'm really glad it's going so well for you... . I admire how well you have managed to just accept it all and move on. I will keep your last paragraph in mind for myself and my own aims.
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