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Author Topic: NC for almost 2 months - feels great  (Read 472 times)
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« on: June 12, 2014, 09:47:05 PM »

I have gone through all stages in this relationship.  A month ago she announced on her Facebook that she was on a trip and in a relationship with the "most amazing man".  And at that time,  I was really hurt considering we were sleeping together 3 weeks before.  However,  I told my friend that I didn't want anymore Facebook updates. 

So I still have her phone number blocked and Facebook blocked.  And everything is going very well.   I feel better in my professional and personal life.   I am happy and I feel like I am returning to my old self again.   This forum has really helped me.   I have no intention of breaking NC, and I am only looking forward. 

I am comforted by the fact that I no longer view her as this great love.  I realize that is wasn't real.   And that is ok.  I don't hate her,  and I realize that she is what she is.  She will never change,  and she will continue to do what she does.   I feel fortunate that I have got out of the relationship relatively unscathed.  I really think that t listening to the advice on here and following through was the key.   
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« Reply #1 on: June 12, 2014, 09:55:44 PM »

So good to hear this. I'm very happy for you.

It is very encouraging to hear your success story and I like the fact you accept her and the r/s you had for what the are, without idealizing nor devalueing it or demonizing her. I'm following the same approach and I feel it leaves me with a clean heart and conscious.

It reminds me of this Buddhist quote "Hanging on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die" Smiling (click to insert in post)

Take care,

TIL
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« Reply #2 on: June 13, 2014, 12:48:24 AM »

I love your quote trappedinlove Smiling (click to insert in post)

I'm really glad it's going so well for you... . I admire how well you have managed to just accept it all and move on. I will keep your last paragraph in mind for myself and my own aims.
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