NC for almost 2 months - feels great

[Tired_of_this12345]

I have gone through all stages in this relationship.  A month ago she announced on her Facebook that she was on a trip and in a relationship with the "most amazing man".  And at that time,  I was really hurt considering we were sleeping together 3 weeks before.  However,  I told my friend that I didn't want anymore Facebook updates. 

So I still have her phone number blocked and Facebook blocked.  And everything is going very well.   I feel better in my professional and personal life.   I am happy and I feel like I am returning to my old self again.   This forum has really helped me.   I have no intention of breaking NC, and I am only looking forward. 

I am comforted by the fact that I no longer view her as this great love.  I realize that is wasn't real.   And that is ok.  I don't hate her,  and I realize that she is what she is.  She will never change,  and she will continue to do what she does.   I feel fortunate that I have got out of the relationship relatively unscathed.  I really think that t listening to the advice on here and following through was the key.   

[trappedinlove]

So good to hear this. I'm very happy for you.

It is very encouraging to hear your success story and I like the fact you accept her and the r/s you had for what the are, without idealizing nor devalueing it or demonizing her. I'm following the same approach and I feel it leaves me with a clean heart and conscious.

It reminds me of this Buddhist quote "Hanging on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die"

Take care,

TIL

[Red Sky]

I love your quote trappedinlove

I'm really glad it's going so well for you... . I admire how well you have managed to just accept it all and move on. I will keep your last paragraph in mind for myself and my own aims.