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[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

I recently joined and shared my story on the Newby-Board (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=227809.0). Today, I saw pictures of him and his new girl on FB, being together and kissing. Although I already heard it seemed like he was seeing someone else, this hurt more than I thought it would. So soon, so publicly shared, when he told me we couldn't be together because he didn't want to hurt me and now that his ex is pregnant with his child.

The thing is... I have to call him to ask something important. I've been procrastinating to do so. I'm thinking now may not be the best time, since he's in the very-much-in-love-phase and I don't want him to get mad and end the conversation without an answer.

Like I said before, still unsure about what I should do and want to do...

[Rollercoaster1]

I recently joined and shared my story on the Newby-Board (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=227809.0). Today, I saw pictures of him and his new girl on FB, being together and kissing. Although I already heard it seemed like he was seeing someone else, this hurt more than I thought it would. So soon, so publicly shared, when he told me we couldn't be together because he didn't want to hurt me and now that his ex is pregnant with his child.

The thing is... I have to call him to ask something important. I've been procrastinating to do so. I'm thinking now may not be the best time, since he's in the very-much-in-love-phase and I don't want him to get mad and end the conversation without an answer.

Like I said before, still unsure about what I should do and want to do...

[JohnLove]

Hello Rollercoaster1. I read your story. Sadly it sounds very much like BPD behavior and honestly it doesn't make any sense a lot of the time. If your important question has a time limit you might need to ask... . but if it can wait... . can it wait?.

[Forestaken]

The thing is... I have to call him to ask something important. I've been procrastinating to do so. I'm thinking now may not be the best time, since he's in the very-much-in-love-phase and I don't want him to get mad and end the conversation without an answer.

Like I said before, still unsure about what I should do and want to do...

If it financial? Life or death? Or is it something that just gnaws at you?

[Rollercoaster1]

No, it's not life or death. It's that I have this feeling he told a mutual acquaintance about us and I need to know for sure, because this could have some big consequences.

[Rollercoaster1]

Any suggestions on how to handle this... ? 

[Forestaken]

Any suggestions on how to handle this... ? 

What kind of consequences?  You see alot times, we create our won dramas/worries for nothing.  We have to withdraw from this drama and embrace peace. 

What will happen if this mutual acquaintance only hear his side, will you die? lose your job, finances? become homeless?  My X's sister attacked my on FB, some friends dropped me others stayed.  I appreciate those who stayed and realized those who did drop me weren't worth keeping.