so diffrent from one to another.

[peiper]

I really think they can all be so diffrent but in some ways the same. Mine has so many BPD traits but also npd traits. Its so hard to guess what they will do next. Im to the point that I do not care. I hate to say it I hope someday she realizes what she lost and had and hurt but I doubt it will happen. She creates her own reality.

[Forestaken]

IMO: My Xw was uBPD/uNPD+dOCD. 

In the end, she lost me and the kids, her house and her lifestyle.  She now lives with her sister.  Although she is financially set as the results of the divorce, she lost all the intangibles.

Until someone admits they have a problem, no one can help them.

[Mutt]

It took me awhile to see what kinds of traits were prominent in my wife. Waif was something that I picked up on the boards a lot and she is Queen / Witch. After I read this article BPD BEHAVIORS: Waif, Hermit, Queen, and Witch I started to see the behaviors and patterns of my uBPDw.  She is narcisitic and that plays into the Queen. She is very controlling. You can't predict what she will do, but you can predict patterns. I'm sorry it's confusing peiper