Half assed attempts

[Mr Hollande]

One thing that occurred to me today is the half assedness of her contact attemps. A slap dash "let's throw it to the wall and see if it sticks, OK not this time either, well never mind I'll give it another week" approach. There's something so robotic and cold about it. Unengaged.

Can anyone else relate to this?

[Overbeck]

When she broke NC with me, most times it was an empty text. I never knew if it was the maximum effort she could give because of nervousness and shame... .or, she knew I loved her and an empty text was all she needed to ensnare me.

[MommaBear]

Love the description, Mr Holland! Soo accurate in my case as well!

My xhwBPD has done this to me a million times. Used to send me texts or email or call "just to chat" ... .

Then of course, everything becomes loaded and falls apart in no time.

I wish I could establish NC, but have no choice since we have a child together.  :'(

[Caredverymuch]

One thing that occurred to me today is the half assedness of her contact attemps. A slap dash "let's throw it to the wall and see if it sticks, OK not this time either, well never mind I'll give it another week" approach. There's something so robotic and cold about it. Unengaged.

Can anyone else relate to this?

Absolutely! The attempts become weaker and more shallow after each subsequent split or eventual LC or NC. Texts meant for " someone else" ,  empty body texts.  All dipping the toe in the water to test the level of potential need supply.  This instances ands others just as similar indicated their chronological emotional level perhaps most definitively. Its interesting because he holds a rather admirable position career wise. And I can only imagine how exhausting it must be to hold that mask up all day. 

[Tincup]

I too get these types of attempts and was wondering.  In the five years we were together I never had an email or text was was not intended for me.  In the months since she broke up I have had several of each.  Plus numerous random texts saying something about did you hear about so and so... BUT in the past that is all she needed to do and I would bite.  It really is so sad if you think about it.  I do not "read into" anything else that ANYONE ever sends me except her.  Anyone else "hello" means Hello.  About a month of two ago I received an email from her asking me if I wanted to be set up with a friend of hers who was "completely opposite of her both physically and in personality".  I remember reading that and thinking if I say I am not interested, she will think I am interested in her because I am not interested in her "friend".  Just another attempt as the subject line says... .I was wondering how many others would get stuff like this... .We are all in this together folks!