Thank you, everyone

[MommaBear]

Hi Family,

I just joined yesterday, after reading some of the posts here, and realizing that I'm not alone. This board has been a tremendous support for me.

I won't bore you all with the details of my particular situation, but instead, I wanted to tell you all what I've learned on this board in the last 2 days.

All of your are amazing, remarkable people with a great deal of inner strength. The fact that you're able to offer such empathy and support after all that you've been through is in no uncertain way, a miracle in it's own right. It's so easy to shut down, become bitter and hate everyone after the things we've gone though, and yet in helping yourselves, you also reach out and help others. Strangers. People who are weak and vulnerable and have very little to give in return. If there is a group of people who deserve to be selfish in terms of emotional needs, it would be us, yet somehow, we all manage to give and to elevate each other. I want to tell you all how remarkable and inspiring that is to me, and it should be to you as well.

I've seen nothing but kind, generous, compassionate people who, through no fault of their own, got taken to the cleaners, so to speak, by people with a sickness that seeps down to the very soul. People who sell out their humanity out of fear and pain and an inability to love. I think, in many ways, this is the worst kind of poverty. A poverty of love.

And so many of us relate to each other. I've read countless times on this board how we could all be the same person, having gone though so many similar experiences. I think there's some truth in that we could all benefit from. If, in fact, we're all so similar, and here I am, surrounded by people who, despite their hardships, are still willing to give and to help elevate others, then maybe none of us are all that bad after all, are we? I mean, think about it. I read these posts, and my first instinct is empathy, and a desire to help. My xhwBPD didn't take those things away from me, and he never will. In realizing that, I now know that I'm hurt, but I'm not broken. And neither are any of you.

He did not break me, and I owe all of you an eternal debt of gratitude in helping me come to this realization in such a short time.

And neither are any of you broken. Please remember that, no matter how dark it may seem at times.

Thank you, all. 

[LettingGo14]

I read these posts, and my first instinct is empathy, and a desire to help. My xhwBPD didn't take those things away from me, and he never will. In realizing that, I now know that I'm hurt, but I'm not broken. And neither are any of you.

He did not break me, and I owe all of you an eternal debt of gratitude in helping me come to this realization in such a short time.

And neither are any of you broken. Please remember that, no matter how dark it may seem at times.

Thank you, all. 

Thank you, MommaBear, for your powerful statement.  We are all in this together, and we are not broken.  So much power in our collective wisdom.   It has taught me that it's not what happens to me that matters, it is how I relate to it.

[Caredverymuch]

Hi Family,

I just joined yesterday, after reading some of the posts here, and realizing that I'm not alone. This board has been a tremendous support for me.

I won't bore you all with the details of my particular situation, but instead, I wanted to tell you all what I've learned on this board in the last 2 days.

All of your are amazing, remarkable people with a great deal of inner strength. The fact that you're able to offer such empathy and support after all that you've been through is in no uncertain way, a miracle in it's own right. It's so easy to shut down, become bitter and hate everyone after the things we've gone though, and yet in helping yourselves, you also reach out and help others. Strangers. People who are weak and vulnerable and have very little to give in return. If there is a group of people who deserve to be selfish in terms of emotional needs, it would be us, yet somehow, we all manage to give and to elevate each other. I want to tell you all how remarkable and inspiring that is to me, and it should be to you as well.

I've seen nothing but kind, generous, compassionate people who, through no fault of their own, got taken to the cleaners, so to speak, by people with a sickness that seeps down to the very soul. People who sell out their humanity out of fear and pain and an inability to love. I think, in many ways, this is the worst kind of poverty. A poverty of love.

And so many of us relate to each other. I've read countless times on this board how we could all be the same person, having gone though so many similar experiences. I think there's some truth in that we could all benefit from. If, in fact, we're all so similar, and here I am, surrounded by people who, despite their hardships, are still willing to give and to help elevate others, then maybe none of us are all that bad after all, are we? I mean, think about it. I read these posts, and my first instinct is empathy, and a desire to help. My xhwBPD didn't take those things away from me, and he never will. In realizing that, I now know that I'm hurt, but I'm not broken. And neither are any of you.

He did not break me, and I owe all of you an eternal debt of gratitude in helping me come to this realization in such a short time.

And neither are any of you broken. Please remember that, no matter how dark it may seem at times.

Thank you, all. 

What an eloquent and heart warming reflection Mommabear!  In your short time here, you too have made a great difference with your compassionate support of so many on the ourney. I want to thank you for sharing that support and understanding because, you are more than correct in saying, we are a group who came together with one thing in common.  Our wounds and our broken hearts that had no understanding of what we had just experienced.  And so many had no where to turn with that.

We came here so wounded yet we soothe and we grow and we become better together.  And we are all in various stages of our journey to healing.  Yet, it consistently amazes me as well at how much kindness and good rises right to the surface as we help one another get back up here.  As we reach out and extend a virtual hand that seems to say " You're okay, you will be okay, don't cry alone anymore.  Take all of these hands and get back up. Walk along with the same people who understand and yes, who are so good and alike. We will get you to that better tomorrow."

Even in the darkest moments on my journey to healing I took great solace in knowing that I always could see the good, even if it was at times a glimmer.  He didn't take that away from me.  No one could. This site and the incredible education, support, and understanding here is beyond awesome, empathetic, generous and inspiring. Finding this site was the missing piece I so desperately needed to detach fully. You all are indeed good and giving and caring people.  Like Mommab said, never forget that.  I cant express how much healing I have gained and my skies are so bright and I am much better in many beautiful ways as such.

Wounded but not broken. And happier everyday! Thank you again Mommabear and all others.

[eagle755]

I joined this site at a good time.

Not happy to experience such a traumatic event, but I can be happy for the timing of it. I thank people like you, and everyone on here for their support of each other and me.

Its good to know there's good people in this world, after figuring out the one person we thought was the greatest, was only a lie, leaves us so defensive from other humans.

Thank you guys for everything.

I'm doing much better, and will continue to stay here, to help as many people through this as I can. Hopefully I grow even more, and learn to help people even better. So far all I can give is my experience and how I'm healing.