I was thinking maybe we could post our schemas here and those of our exes to look for patterns. I don't know if there's any therapeuticall value in this, but it really fascinates me! You to?
You can find the schemas here:
www.schematherapy.com/id73.htmMy Early Maladaptive Schemas:
2. MISTRUST / ABUSE
4. DEFECTIVENESS / SHAME
10. ENTITLEMENT / GRANDIOSITY ("an exaggerated focus on superiority in order to achieve power or control" was secretly strong up to the age of 23, almost gone now)
11. INSUFFICIENT SELF-CONTROL / SELF-DISCIPLINE (for mundade tasks. To reach goals in regards to the schema above my self-discipline was crazy strong)
15. NEGATIVITY / PESSIMISM
16. EMOTIONAL INHIBITION (I'm easily scared by angry people and I'm scared to be angry. I also rarely laugh out loud)
17. UNRELENTING STANDARDS / HYPERCRITICALNESS
exBPDgf Early Maladaptive Schemas:
1. ABANDONMENT / INSTABILITY
4. DEFECTIVENESS / SHAME
8. ENMESHMENT / UNDEVELOPED SELF (Enmeshment with father)
9. FAILURE TO ACHIEVE
11. INSUFFICIENT SELF-CONTROL / SELF-DISCIPLINE
12. SUBJUGATION
13. SELF-SACRIFICE
14. APPROVAL-SEEKING / RECOGNITION-SEEKING
15. NEGATIVITY / PESSIMISM
17. UNRELENTING STANDARDS / HYPERCRITICALNESS
18. PUNITIVENESS (I've only seen it self-directed)
