So happy for progress

[MissyM]

Tonight my dBPDh was dysregulated after he had therapy. I tried to validate his feelings but he kept projecting them onto me.  I finally said I didn't want to have conversations like this, I am not responsible for how he feels and I do want to be supportive.   I then said that we had a few hours alone and I would like to enjoy our time together.  I asked him if he could deescalate and he said, yes he would use some distraction techniques.  It worked and we were able to turn things around and have a lovely evening! 

Proud of myself for setting a boundary in a loving way and proud of him for responding in a loving way.  Really wouldn't have thought this was possible a few months ago!

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[takingandsending]

That is awesome! 

I am so happy for you both. Thanks for sharing the success story!