did you spot their wake of destruction?

[caughtnreleased]

Hi, I am wondering if any of you have been able to observe the wake of destruction that your BPDs leave behind them, aside from yourselves.  We are only a little piece of their lives, one object amongst many, that served to fill their emptiness for a moment. 

Here is what I know, and what I have observed:

1. his best friend put him up, gave him a job, etc. at a time when he wasn't doing well.  What did he do? He ended up sleeping with his best friend's girlfriend in the guys OWN bed.  That blew up the friendship, big time. Ok, friendship gone, but he recycled with that girl a couple times when he felt empty inside obviously, and then guess what, looks like he went cold on her... .for a few months, she was posting really pathetic and depressing looking selfies of herself on her facebook. Then she found a BF and that was her new profile pic.

2. When he first started dating my replacement, she started posting things about them doing things together.   Then, one day... .all that stuff is gone and her profile pic is her in a bar with another guy laughing, and one of her friends comments "I am SOO glad to see this" But looks like they got back together for another 8 months or so, and when they split up she was posting more pictures of herself with other guys, and also posting stuff about wanting to kick someone's face in... .hmmm, wow sounds like a ton of fun.

3. He and I recycled for a bit, but he starts sleeping with someone else kind of right at the same time... .but looks like he went cold on her for a bit, since she started changing her profile pic every week, then posts profile pics of herself having SOO much fun with another guy.

The online behaviour of all these people he latches on too is eerie.  I never posted a profile pic of myself with another guy, it's a little too tacky for me.  I did post a picture of me with a group of people, with a couple good looking guys cozying up to me... .guess who called a few weeks after I posted that picture? In a way, it's almost too easy to figure out how to "get" him... .but it's so tacky, and it leads to nothing really.  Anyway, I think a lot of our own insecurities make us think that it's something about us, that we did something wrong. But sometimes if we just observe without letting our insecurities blind us, we can, in fact see the wake of hurt that they leave behind them, and that everyone pretty much gets the same treatment, regardless of how ugly, good looking, dumb, or smart they are.  In the end we are objects, that can only temporarily fill their needs.   The only person that you need to make sure approves of your behaviour in relationships like these is YOU.