Hi A bit about myself

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

Hi!

I'm in the same situation as most others here. I took a longer break from reading the forums. Although the forums are an amazing place to gain knowledge and seek support I needed time to figure things out on my own.

I'm around 5 months out of the relationship with my ex, have been NC for... .around 2 months now (2 months of really low contact before that.)

What can I say. I went through hell. Every single day and night. But I am doing much better know. Much, much better.

I am rediscovering my true self, just as she managed to reinvent herself within 1 week of cheating on me and breaking up in the most inhumane way possible (I think everyone here can relate.)

I'm almost back on top of my game. Not patting my back here... .but I am in better shape than I've ever been, as it should be at the prime age of 30:), and I am back to enjoying life.

I'm even getting interested in the the opposite sex again, and although it might sound weird, I can actually see how women are attracted to me. maybe even more than before this horrible episode of my life.

I don't hate her. I have my moments in which I resent her for what she has done to me. But I have forgiven her. Although I know it will likely never happen I wish her to find peace and happiness. She deserves it just as much as everyone else.


I guess that's it, for now. Maybe I can give back a bit of the help and support I got on this forum by contributing myself.

[thatwasthat]

Hi!

I'm in the same situation as most others here. I took a longer break from reading the forums. Although the forums are an amazing place to gain knowledge and seek support I needed time to figure things out on my own.

I'm around 5 months out of the relationship with my ex, have been NC for... .around 2 months now (2 months of really low contact before that.)

What can I say. I went through hell. Every single day and night. But I am doing much better know. Much, much better.

I am rediscovering my true self, just as she managed to reinvent herself within 1 week of cheating on me and breaking up in the most inhumane way possible (I think everyone here can relate.)

I'm almost back on top of my game. Not patting my back here... .but I am in better shape than I've ever been, as it should be at the prime age of 30:), and I am back to enjoying life.

I'm even getting interested in the the opposite sex again, and although it might sound weird, I can actually see how women are attracted to me. maybe even more than before this horrible episode of my life.

I don't hate her. I have my moments in which I resent her for what she has done to me. But I have forgiven her. Although I know it will likely never happen I wish her to find peace and happiness. She deserves it just as much as everyone else.


I guess that's it, for now. Maybe I can give back a bit of the help and support I got on this forum by contributing myself.

[allenv3]

This is good for me to hear.  I'm coming out of a funk I've been in for quite some time. I took it personal for the longest time.  Thank you!

[Mutt]

 

Hi thatwasthat,

I would like to welcome you. I'm sorry about the terrible experience that you had with your ex. A relationship with a person with a personality disorder is very difficult. I like how you articulate that it took her all of a week to re-invent herself and it takes much longer for a non-disordered person. A pwBPD cope differently.

I'm glad that you have found us!


--Mutt