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Formerly CaresAboutSomeoneLikeThis
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What does this really mean now?
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November 30, 2014, 02:11:21 PM »
Ex gf sends simple email! I'm sure some of you know my story but what is this? Has anyone else had this crap?
Are we able to say goodbye? I want to say goodbye before I start a relationship please.
Just wanted to say goodbye before I began.
No drama, just a last goodbye for closure before I commit.
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November 30, 2014, 02:14:25 PM »
mine used to try that approach as a way to get me to break NC and talk to her. It was mines way of saying " Im leaving for good better stop "
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Quote from: Caresaboutsomeonelikethis on November 30, 2014, 02:11:21 PM
Ex gf sends simple email! I'm sure some of you know my story but what is this? Has anyone else had this crap?
Are we able to say goodbye? I want to say goodbye before I start a relationship please.
Just wanted to say goodbye before I began.
No drama, just a last goodbye for closure before I commit.
You don't owe her and this is a hidden barb, looking on the surface like an emotional plea but actually a dagger. Dont give her the satisfaction. Think of yourself.
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There could be any number of reasons but I wouldn't bother trying to work out the correct one. Completely disordered. NC keeps control in your hands. You can't control them and nor should you - but NC will prevent them from controlling you, IMHO.
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It seems to me tgat they want to say goodbye but also know you have feelings for. They want to know that they meant something to you.
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It means: Please, keep NC, please.
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Quote from: enlighten me on November 30, 2014, 02:23:09 PM
They want to know that they meant something to you.
Well wouldn't I just love to know that myself from my friend wBPD.
Caresabouts, here's the thing. If we have to resort to a message board of strangers to figure out what an email means, then this person doesn't deserve our time and attention. I think that's the thing that just kills me. We're always the ones trying to figure IT out... .whatever IT is or WAS! Healthy relationships don't typically involve unclear, crazy-making emails - or at least that's what I've been told. Take good care of yourself, my friend.
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You all help to keep my sanity, I think we all my hope they saw the light and will be normal,
But your right keepongoing, if it was normal I would not be on this board
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Quote from: Trog on November 30, 2014, 02:18:26 PM
Quote from: Caresaboutsomeonelikethis on November 30, 2014, 02:11:21 PM
Ex gf sends simple email! I'm sure some of you know my story but what is this? Has anyone else had this crap?
Are we able to say goodbye? I want to say goodbye before I start a relationship please.
Just wanted to say goodbye before I began.
No drama, just a last goodbye for closure before I commit.
You don't owe her and this is a hidden barb, looking on the surface like an emotional plea but actually a dagger. Dont give her the satisfaction. Think of yourself.
I agree with Trog.
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