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Just wondering what other people's experiences were here so I can prepare myself for possible future events, I Believe my exUBPDgf has a attachment to me due to the length of time we have known each other but I disorder always wins and it is too abusive for me to spend the rest of my life with. There are roughly 60 miles that separate us which is good but if you have cut off all communication so they no longer get any response out of you what is the likelihood they will go out of their way just to try and engage you?
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I am really hoping she will text me I have gone NC for 6 days mow since the B/U 5 months ago, travel not an option ! She lives three states away , but text possible BUT I can't wait to give her the silent treatment !
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Quote from: Caresaboutsomeonelikethis on December 09, 2014, 03:02:27 PM
Just wondering what other people's experiences were here so I can prepare myself for possible future events, I Believe my exUBPDgf has a attachment to me due to the length of time we have known each other but I disorder always wins and it is too abusive for me to spend the rest of my life with. There are roughly 60 miles that separate us which is good but if you have cut off all communication so they no longer get any response out of you what is the likelihood they will go out of their way just to try and engage you?
There is really no telling what any of them will do after splitting. Many will come back or initiate contact and some disappear forever. I think it all has to do with how bad they treated you and if they have found satisfying new supply. You will need to be the one to set the boundaries and enforce them according to what
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This is something that I worried about initially, but I believe that my exuBPD will avoid any situation that requires moderate effort on his part. Unless that is, he is guaranteed a big pay-off.
So although it is possible, he would have to go out of his way, and knows he won't get a glorious welcome, so he really won't likely bother.
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Im with luckyescape mine would never bother it requires them to be bothered
. I have heard they tend to stalk more if you split with them, if they split and leave you they may just dissapear if your lucky.
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I left her, she has been stalking my social media for months, I could not care to look at hers, I have seen enough in the relationship. even during our relationship she sent people by my house to make sure I was home and not lying about where I was.
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she kept saying she wants to see me again one more time to say goodbye! I have a gut feeling that was not to say goodbye and just to suck me back into the relationship
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