No good comes from answering the phone

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

Anyone following my story will recall my BPDw (seperated 7 months) has been sectioned and is currently in hospital. I found it difficult when she first went in there as I know how much she hates hospitals (this is not the first time) but I managed to deal with it and didn't answer the phone to her. Initially she was calling me every day leaving crazy messages but in the last week did not call for 7 days. This was surprising but very welcome. She called on Xmas day and left a short angry 'merry Xmas' after 7 days with no messages and again she called this morning, I finally decided perhaps after 3 weeks in hospital she had made some ground to speak to her and the first thing she says to me... .'Ive got a crush on a guy in the hospital'!

Why do I want to know this! Why would you call a husband you say you want to reconcile with and then say something so inappropriate and obviously hurtful? I just cannot understand this condition. The call lasted about as long as that and I really regretted answering the phone. I simply gave her the chance to twist the knife in my side and had I answered on Xmas day that would have been my Xmas present. I don't feel jealous, I just feel angry that someone in my life wants to hurt me, or could be so inconsiderate. What's the point in calling me to say that?

So, ive changed my phone number and resolved to myself to not speak with her she brings nothing but pain into my life and that has been the way since we met. Ive never met another person like this in my life, it's quite a test!

[Trog]

Anyone following my story will recall my BPDw (seperated 7 months) has been sectioned and is currently in hospital. I found it difficult when she first went in there as I know how much she hates hospitals (this is not the first time) but I managed to deal with it and didn't answer the phone to her. Initially she was calling me every day leaving crazy messages but in the last week did not call for 7 days. This was surprising but very welcome. She called on Xmas day and left a short angry 'merry Xmas' after 7 days with no messages and again she called this morning, I finally decided perhaps after 3 weeks in hospital she had made some ground to speak to her and the first thing she says to me... .'Ive got a crush on a guy in the hospital'!

Why do I want to know this! Why would you call a husband you say you want to reconcile with and then say something so inappropriate and obviously hurtful? I just cannot understand this condition. The call lasted about as long as that and I really regretted answering the phone. I simply gave her the chance to twist the knife in my side and had I answered on Xmas day that would have been my Xmas present. I don't feel jealous, I just feel angry that someone in my life wants to hurt me, or could be so inconsiderate. What's the point in calling me to say that?

So, ive changed my phone number and resolved to myself to not speak with her she brings nothing but pain into my life and that has been the way since we met. Ive never met another person like this in my life, it's quite a test!