Saw a shrink today

[Our abuse recovery guide]

Didn't realize how much sadness my sibling causes me till I was already crying.

Thankfully he understand how difficult people with BPD can be.

[ropend]

Didn't realize how much sadness my sibling causes me till I was already crying.

Thankfully he understand how difficult people with BPD can be.

[Kwamina]

Hi ropend,

Sounds like you had a tough day yesterday. Perhaps you had been keeping it inside for such a long time and now finally had a safe environment in which you could let it all out. I am glad your therapist has knowledge of the complexities involved when having to deal with people with BPD.

How do you feel now on the 'day after'?

[P.F.Change]

It is a big step to talk with a counselor and can also be very helpful. Good job looking after yourself in this way. Sometimes (especially in the beginning) therapy can bring up a lot of feelings and it is easy to feel worn out or overwhelmed, but you can plan to go easy on yourself at those times, and it does get better. How are you doing?

Wishing you peace,

PF

[funfunctional]

HI Ropend,

Your post got me wondering how the term "shrink" came about.   Hmmm.

I understand.    My siblings have caused me a tremendous amount of pain and crying to good.

Glad you got a good cry out.

Sometimes that is all we can do is cry.   Cry for what "isn't" and we wish it could be.  Cry for what nasty/mean/destructive things people with BPD can do.   

Happy Holidays!

[zxmct98]

I started therapy about 1.5 years ago and for the first couple of months I think I cried more during that time than in my entire life otherwise. I still go through periods of time of feeling low, sad and really just... .heavy. Also angry, but anger didn't come til later.

Look at it as you're getting help and confronting the stuff that causes you pain. Stuff that you've likely been keeping inside for a long time.

[GeekyGirl]

Hi ropend,

That's a great thing to do for yourself, although taking the first step and opening up can be difficult. It's going to help you really understand what's going on in your relationship with your sibling, and ultimately better understand yourself.

I'm curious to know how you're doing, now that you've had a few days to reflect. Therapy can be hard work, but your happiness and peace of mind are well worth it.

-GG

[ropend]

Thanks all.

[Is This Normal]

Ropend,

I've done a ton of therapy, but I think I've done most of my crying in recovery meetings. For the first few months I went, I would just sit there with my eyes leaking. One of my sponsors told me I was "thawing out." I always liked that analogy.

Congratulations on the inception of your own "spring thaw." Only good can come of it!

-ITN-