don't know what to do anymore?

[Pfisher]

 Hi everyone . been married to a woman with BPD for a year. Have come to the point where I don't know how to handle this anymore. She threatens suicide on a daily basis and goes from extreme highs to lows. We don't live together and when the time is up she becomes very irrational. She constantly puts me down to a point where she tells me I'm useless. She has injured me in a rage and I feel like a broken record with every time I call the police or authorities with a suicide threat. I don't know how to handle it anymore and I'm at a loss as to where to turn. I can't seem to do anything right and she has gone and destroyed all my friendships and performed at my work . I just want her better but its getting worse. She wants me to live with her again but it was no better then . she would kick up when I was going to work. Help me please. Any advice appreciated  

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[clljhns]

Hi Pfisher,

So glad you found this site!

She threatens suicide on a daily basis and goes from extreme highs to lows.

This must be frustrating and exhausting, I can't imagine going through this every day. When she threatens suicide and you call the police, what is the outcome? Is she hospitalized, and if so, has she been diagnosed? Is she in treatment?

Are you wanting to maintain the relationship, or break free? Let us know how we can better direct you on this site.

Wishing you all the best! 

[NorthernGirl]

Hello Pfisher and 

It sounds as though you have been through a very stressful time. I'm sorry you have found yourself in this position.

Like clljhns, I'm interested to know if she is in treatment and if she has been diagnosed. Before she can change, she needs to recognize what is going on. Do you think she realizes she needs help and needs to change?

You may want to read about Depression and Suicidal Ideation and see if there is anything in this information that will help you.

Please keep posting and tell us more. You've come to the right place. 

[Pfisher]

Hi yes have rung police time and time again . they let her out everytime. No matter how much I tell them I feel like a broken record. She has been diagnosed and I have got to the point where I feel I'm on a treadmill. Just keeping my head above water. She is almost obsessive in ruining every part of my life. I'm over it entirely and are at point of not helping anymore as its destroying me and she almost seems to like it that way. Thanks for your replys