Dealing with an ex

[bthorn17]

I threw out my ex uBPD GF out a year and a half ago ending a 4 and a half year relationship. 

I do not contact her or even try. She on the other hand will go out of her way to wave at me or approach me when she sees me. However, when she has her 8 year old son with her, she turns his head away from me, gives me a dirty look , and walks the other direction.

Any input as to why she does this?

[Turkish]

Hello bthorn17, and welcome!

It sounds maddening to try and make sense of her weird behavior. She sounds like she's still attached to you (and BPD is an attachment disorder, whether we are split black or white... .and with what you describe, it sounds like you are split gray), yet she's doing this with her son. You were with her for half of her child's life. How was your relationship with him?

[Mutt]

Hi bthorn17,



It's hard to tell what someone else thinks. Doubly hard when someone has a distorted belief system. Maybe she feels bad for her S8 and is trying to make you feel bad ( projection )? I'm glad that you have found us. It helps to talk.