Im 3 months out from her , but this is really for a lot of people who all seem to want to contact them but don't know how to break down the initial contact.
For me i am deal with a high conflict BPD and lawyers are writing letters not me.
High conflict and lawyers involved . . . I would tread lightly. This makes the case even stronger to just delay a bit longer and think things through. If you absolutely must get dialogue flowing, perhaps a birthday or holiday is a good excuse to make some light contact.