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I have been with a woman since 2010 that has BPD

i have spent a great deal of time and gone through a great deal of trauma and pain during this time .

she was diagnosed after getting pregnant with our first daughter.

at that point she broke up with me for 5 months taking my daughter with her in tow.

she filed a protection order and then some how convinced the law i was the most dangerous person on the planet.

it was a very painful thing to have to deal with all the lies and unrealistic accusations.

i was scared and felt alone as i do now .

some how during our relationship i have lost all my friends and family's support as they just don't see her as i do.

at times she has been the best partner a man could want in life , we have in the past few years built a million dollar company together .

she would apply her self at times and things would go great for us .

[dad uncertain]

I have been with a woman since 2010 that has BPD

i have spent a great deal of time and gone through a great deal of trauma and pain during this time .

she was diagnosed after getting pregnant with our first daughter.

at that point she broke up with me for 5 months taking my daughter with her in tow.

she filed a protection order and then some how convinced the law i was the most dangerous person on the planet.

it was a very painful thing to have to deal with all the lies and unrealistic accusations.

i was scared and felt alone as i do now .

some how during our relationship i have lost all my friends and family's support as they just don't see her as i do.

at times she has been the best partner a man could want in life , we have in the past few years built a million dollar company together .

she would apply her self at times and things would go great for us .

[Mutt]

Hi dad uncertain,



Sorry your going through this. Accusations and a protective order is scary to go through.

It's hard to convey a mental illness that's difficult to detect in the public eye as much of the behavior is directed at loved ones behind closed doors. It helps to talk to people that can empathize. I'm glad that you have found us.

Are you living together or seperated?

[Lucky Jim]

Hey dad uncertain, I'm sorry to hear what you are going through.  Many of us, including me, can relate to the trauma and pain you describe and I'm aware how hard it is to be in a r/s with a pwBPD.  I should know, having been previously married to a pwBPD for 16 years.  It's true that others don't get it, in part because pwBPD present a very different persona to the outside world but also because a BPD r/s, in my view, is so far removed from what others have experienced in their own emotional lives.  As Mutt inquired, what is your current situation?  I'm quite familiar with the "lies and unrealistic accusations," not to mention wild exaggerations.  That she may have helped build the company is immaterial, in my view.

LuckyJim

[an0ught]

Hi dad uncertain,

sounds like a difficult situation with her distorting matters so much. And complex too with kid and business involved  .

she was diagnosed after getting pregnant with our first daughter.

Is she in therapy?

Welcome to the board,

a0