exSO moved out this weekend

[Waddams]

I didn't know she was actually moving until Friday night.  She kept everything real quiet and let me stress over whether she'd find a place to go before the lease ended at the end of this month.  I had my S10 this weekend, so we just stayed out of the way.  Went to a big gorge where they were doing whitewater releases from the dam upstream, shooting, etc.  Then the next day spent the day at a rec center pool with a water park. 

House is a wreck, and exSO has some more stuff to get out, but she and her 4 kids are out as far as living there.  First night of true peace for me in well over a year.  It was great. 

She's making noises about wanting to stay friends, have me stay in the kid's lives, etc.  Her S15 stole a box of gum I had just bought my S10.  He has a place he stashes his stuff, and only her S15 knows it's there.  I saw him put it up Saturday, and Sunday when we got home from evening church and dinner, it was gone.

The only kid of hers that hasn't really started to pick up lots of bad traits from her is her youngest.  That kid seems to be impervious and does her own thing.  The rest, they are 13, 15, and 17, and I can see the clear pattern of act wonderful outside the home, and ___ on everyone in their home and keep it all secret and discrete behind closed doors.  Her D10 (youngest) actually acts out a fair bit and it has hit me recently it's because exSO allows the poor girl to be treated so poorly by her siblings and the girl's mom is just not present enough to see it.  exSO is blinded by her own attitude and need to put her kids up on their angelic pedestals.  It's very sad.  I've recently really started to feel bad for her D10. 

But I also don't want my S10 exposed to their crap anymore.  I'm thinking I likely just need to go NC for my and my S10's own good.

[mitatsu]

N/C is the only way to be 

Glad its going well for you and protecting your lil un is paramount