Hi Ooohm
Young's book for the layman is well worth reading
www.amazon.com/Reinventing-Your-Life-Breakthrough-Negative/dp/0452272041I also found the practitioners guide surprisingly accessible too.
www.amazon.com/Schema-Therapy-A-Practitioners-Guide/dp/1593853726Both are filled with really powerful tools and ideas
There are also various Schema resources on this site that are worth exploring (do a search)
Max I'm sorry that you're having a tough time at the moment. I enjoy reading your posts and I admire your courage and honesty.
I think Schema Therapy can be powerful tool for lasting change, but no therapy is a magic pill. You need to be willing to commit and do the work.
Change is hard for all of us - not just BPDs. I was shocked at how resistant I am to change and for most of us it's a very stop start process
However if your partner has already done DBT and she's willing to commit to therapy then she might really benefit from Schema
If you are interested in finding a good schema therapist it's worth checking this list of fully trained and accredited Schema Therapists in the US
isstonline.com/united-states
Spring is on the way and I hope things get brighter for you and your partner
Reforming