I need advice and support please

[SueLee]

It is so comforting being understood. Nobody gets it. People see her in action  and will blame us for what we obviously allowed. Or we will be an exhausted mess from dealing with her and she will show up as. Miss Congeniality. And people surrounding is just don't get why. I don't blame them, I am just now getting it!

I am sorry you are all in the same boat as I am, but glad for the company and advice.

It is a tough row to hoe.

And our other two are easy-peasy. Especially the DS. Complete cakewalk thus far. Appreciative, helpful, mannerly, and just grateful for family and being loved. Our youngest is much the same but has some level of sass. Which is doable after DD#1

Her dad is so eager for her to visit begs her to stay, wishes she would move home... .honestly he thought of that exhausts me. I love her so much my heart aches but when she blows in, our lives are topsy-turvey and we are constantly doing something wrong. Turning a light on, turning a light off, eating or breathing can even set her off. So I don't think I could have her move home. No. Her dad would say that is wrong but at 23 she needs to be in her own home.

Thanks so much for "getting it" you all know how important that is!

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders