Since last posting on the board a couple of months ago, I've been doing pretty well. I am looking after myself and enjoying life once again. My productivity and performance at work has now improved ten fold
There have been some bumps along the way in terms of my xBPD BFF, however it has been manageable until now.
We still work for the same company. I have kept my distance from her as much as possible. I've worked hard at maintaining my professionalism and not react or respond to any attention seeking behavior from the BPD. The acting out/attention seeking behavior had thankfully started to reduce over time, although she still continues to be hot and cold with me - last week she was friendly during an interaction I had with her, however this week has been a different story.
She had been invited to a meeting by her manager in which I had scheduled. Well, she decided not to turn up to the meeting... .instead, she arrived back at her desk 5 minutes before the meeting was due to end, but did not join us (we were seated right behind her desk). She did not acknowledge myself, her manager or her staff. Nor did she apologize for not attending the meeting. We continued on with our discussion without batting an eyelid. Her manager said nothing to her. She then starts going back and forth from her desk to one of her staff members desk - her voice getting louder as time went on. As I was preparing to leave, she got up from her chair and off she went to another department.
For the first time in a long while I found myself feeling anxious by the experience. On the outside I remained cool, calm and collected, however inside was a very different story.
Then today my team mate informs me that the BPD has instigated a bit of a witch hunt against him. The BPD is having one of her staff members pick apart my team mates work. This follows on from her staff member contacting my manager to complain about my team mate. My team mate and I are very close on a professional and personal level, which the BPD is aware of.
This is the second time in the last few weeks where one of her staff members have contacted my manager to complain about my team mates. The other complaint was against a team mate I was working closely with at the time.
There is now a growing list of people the BPD has turned on due to them being close to me. She recently moved one of her staff members off a project that I was involved in as the staff member and I had become friends. I have a good reputation in the company and have built up a great network. What surprises me is that I've not heard a peep that she has badmouthed me. I have enough people there to inform me if she was in fact stabbing me in the back, but there is absolutely nothing. She is going for those close to me, not me
I'm finding myself fighting off heading back into FOG (FEAR) in light of this week. Whilst I know I am not responsible for her actions in any way, I feel so bad for my close team mate. He doesn't deserve what is happening now. It hurts me as he has my back, protects me, and has supported me throughout the BPD saga. I do feel that he wouldn't be in this position if it wasn't for me. I'm angry with her and would love nothing more than to confront her about everything, but I won't. It is taking all of my strength to keep quiet and ignore all of this.
I can only think she is trying to get my attention by behaving the way she is, and that her intention is to get those I'm close to away from me. I could be wrong, but it's like she is blaming them for me no longer giving her attention as she believes they are taking my attention away from her?
Would appreciate anyone's opinion and/or advice on this.
Hope everyone is well
